It is interesting how judgement pops up each day from other moms regardless of what is being discussed. Never in my wildest dreams could I imagine the judgement that I would feel during a discussion involving – of all things – socks!!!
It is shocking, but, recently, I caught up on all of my laundry. I spent a couple of days washing clothes, all of our bedding and some odds and ends of the house. To be honest, I don’t know where it all comes from and there are many times when I think that I will never see past the pile that seems to continually regrow in our closets.
As most moms experience, there never seem to be enough hours in the day and we have to let a few things slides. One of the things that I let slide is matching and folding socks. Each time I do laundry I just throw the socks in a big wicker basket. When you need a pair of socks, you just go to the bin and match your own pair.
This week, I knew it was time to tackle the dreaded sock bin. After 2 hours and 170 pairs of socks, the matching was complete. I felt so proud. I love organizing the house and getting things perfect. I was so excited and wanted to share my pride with those around me.
As I retold the story of success to my a family member you could shock and disapproval across her face. “What do you mean,” she said. “You have a basket of socks that the kids just take from? You don’t match your socks after each load of laundry.” I know she didn’t mean it, but the judgement oozed from her voice. I mean this is a women who spends half of her free time ironing. She irons everything! She irons the bed sheets, her kitchen towels and her husband’s jeans. Of course, this would horrify her. The thought of not finishing the laundry completely was a disgrace in her mind. She probably didn’t sleep for days as she continued to worry about my laundry chaos. I wonder what she would think of me letting the dishes air dry? Maybe, I better keep that to myself.
I told a few other moms about my socks and they laughed but all had the same reaction: “when was the last time you matched socks and why in the world do you have so many?” Seriously, out of the all the things you should judge me for I guarantee this should be at the bottom of the list.
Moms – actually parents – have so much on their plates. We do what we need to in order to spend the time where we should. Why in the world do we have to judge people? Really, is your sock organization so fundamental to the joy in your life?
Let’s drop the judgement, and let’s support moms and dads in finding the little cheats that makes their lives simpler. It could be the socks, the dishes, the house cleaner, we all have little ways to make life a little less stressful. Embrace yours and ignore others.
As for me, I will never spend that much time matching socks again. I have promised myself that I will match socks each week as the loads of the laundry are folded and put away. Week one has been a success. Although, there is that problem about missing socks. My basket now seems to be full of socks with no matches.. Oh well, that is a story and a problem for another day.
PS – Feel free to share your home cheats below! I’d love to hear about them.